Cheating Men and Women

Cheating Men and Women

Why in the world would anyone want to cheat on their spouse in this day and age is beyond me. With all the sexually transmitted diseases out there. Why would you risk your life for an affair? Better yet, why would you want to risk the life of your spouse?

Sometimes I think people are way too wrapped up in what "I Want", rather than "What my spouse wants".

I have been married to the same man for 25 wonderful years. It has not always been blissful. We like all couples have had trying times. We have had our problems. Problems at the time that almost seemed like the only way to fix it was to get a divorce.

But we stuck it out. And we weathered the storm and it made us stronger. So that is why I don't get it when a spouse wants to bring another person into their marriage.It never works.

The spouse that does the cheating loses the one thing in a marriage that is more important than anything: Trust. Once that is gone, it can never be regained. When a spouse feels that they cannot trust the one that vowed to spend their life with, they feel alone. They feel betrayed. And they are lost.

So for someone like Dr. Laura Schlessinger, to suggest that it the wife's fault that their husbands cheat is just ridiculous. Like Dr. Laura I am a right-wing conservative. But this way of thinking is just medievil.

No matter how a wife may make her husband feel, it is the husband who must make the final decision to cheat or not. And all the blame for cheating falls on the husband. Now is there things that a wife can do to make her husband feel like he is truly loved and wanted? Yes.

But the final decision to cheat is up to the individual. Every marriage has problems. It is how we deal with those problems that either makes a marriage stronger or destroys it. So before you go out and cheat, stop and think how will this affect my spouse?